Yep, that's right, it told me not to. :) So I skipped my appointment today since I still have some work to do with the taxes before taking them in, but I should be able to finish it today.
Here's an interesting question -
DO FRIENDS HAVE TO BE CONVENIENT?
Most of my friends do not support my move to the sticks. I keep getting comments like "well I don't ever go there" or "well I don't like to drive that far". It makes me wonder what I'm worth as a friend I suppose. I'm a little hurt that people think that we "won't ever see each other" just because I move an hour away from where I live now. I don't see anyone on a regular basis as it is now, and I am usually the one to instigate any kind of a get together anyway. I'm going to be living 30 minutes away from Boise, where there is all kinds of things to do, places to meet up at, everything. But I get this kind of attitude about moving? Am I petty? I would drive an hour to visit my friend for a few hours. If the location of "me" is inconvenient, does that mean that you won't be interested in visiting "me" since I'm not in a location that is convenient to "you"?
I would expect for friends to be happy for me, because if they really know me, then they know that we will still be friends and still get together even if I live a little farther away. I've had two people respond right away with comments like "well call me when you move in so I can come up and see it!" or "it sounds like it's so you, I'm happy for you." - those comments were such a relief to hear.
I am so sad that people think that I'm just going to disappear. I hoped for much different reactions. It is very nice to know that I will be missed, but I don't think I should be missed - is my point. I'm still close enough, I'll still be in town every week at least. Ahh well, I guess I just have a job ahead of me to prove to everyone that I'm not forever away.
On another note...
I'm trying really hard lately to think positive about things, and it does seem to be working. It's a challenge. It is so worth it though. I had wrote out the things I wanted in a home, and 30 minutes later I found the house that holds most of those things. A few weeks ago while I was in Sun Valley I was telling Adrian how I want the best of both worlds with everything... How I loved this little house in Hailey that was within walking distance of the grocery store, library and coffee shops... and how it had neighbors, but not too close, and the street was so charming. I also told him how much I adored the country lifestyle and how amazing I feel out by myself, when I can blast my music and not worry about people freaking out next door... that kind of thing. I realized yesterday that the cabin IS the best of both worlds, it's barely 1/4 mile outside of town, within a mile of the school, and definately walking distance to the stores and such. At the same time it feels like you are totally in the middle of nowhere out there, at peace, enjoying the quiet while being so close to town.
I think that this all fell into a place for a reason.
1 comment:
Natchra,
I completely understand where you are coming from! I am "from" Boise and when I moved to Nampa I got the same reaction... when I moved from Nampa to Caldwell.. again the same reaction... Caldwell to Middleton... same reaction. The funny thing is that they never came to visit in Boise either, I always went there or met them somewhere. So I guess what I'm saying is that I would love to come visit you if only I knew what city you were moving to! Don't take what they have to say to heart because in the long run it will always be the same. The friends that visit now will visit when you move and the friends that you always have to make the effort towards... will still be the pain in the butts they've always been! I am excited for you and Adrian and happy that you have found a place that you can truly call "home"!
Kas
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